It’s a tried and true exercise, the writing of expectations within an organization. Every semester my staff creates a list of their expectations of me and I reciprocate with mine of them. We revisit at the midpoint to ensure our mutual goals continue to be supported by the expectations and that the expectations are realistic for our current situation. I’ve participated in similar conversations countless times within professional organizations, committees, staffs, and groups.
And it was only this week I realized I don’t give myself the same opportunity. I have never sat down by myself to write out my own expectations of me, let alone revisited to review the fairness and reality of those expectations.
We talk a lot in student affairs about managing expectations. We encourage students to manage their expectations of an experience or an event to avoid disappointment. We ask staff to manage their expectations of students to be realistic. How often do we manage our expectations of ourselves to be fair and kind?
The month of February marks the beginning of the end (of the academic year). It all goes so quickly from this point as we prepare to wind down the year. Take ten minutes to sit with yourself and write down your realistic expectations of yourself. Post them somewhere to serve as a reminder. Hold yourself accountable the same way we do in groups and organizations. Manage your expectations of yourself to be as good to yourself as you are to others.