It has been some time since I have blogged due to transition. Graduation, making future plans, and finding balance can be extremely difficult. For me, I have been learning throughout transition that it can be exhausting, stressful, and difficult. But I have also learned that in this field it can be very difficult to learn how to just live in the moment. The constant pressure of needing to know what’s next, high pace, and non-stop can take a toll on your mental health. I knew what I needed after graduating and I wanted some down time before the next step. It was going to be needed. I wanted to make sure I felt recharged, ready, and fully equipped for the next step.
Know yourself. This isn’t a competition:
Sometimes it can be hard to see what everyone else is doing. I get it. But know that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing in order to be successful. I am very big on autonomy. I am finding more and more everyday that I am so appreciative of the “holistic” perspective of what it means to be in student affairs. I am constantly asking myself in reflection and blogging: what will work best for the students? Am I at my best? Can I advocate for others if I am not taking care of myself? You all get where I am going with this.
Stay In Your Lane, There Will Be No Traffic:
What works for me may not work for someone else. And learning to accept that and be okay with that is such a growing moment for me and I am glad that I learned that throughout graduate school. In Student Affairs, there can be this competitive spirit, which can be a good thing and a bad thing at times, but ultimately my perspective is being there for the people that I work with and making sure that the students know they have someone that they can rely on and trust.
If You Need A Break, Take It:
Everyone’s situations are different but if you truly feel that you need a break due to not wanting to burn out, do it! Travel while you can, live your life, and catch up with family and friends. Having the time to do that can be challenging so why not use it when you have it? I’m going to be honest with you: I feel as new professionals we tend to sometimes feel the need to prove ourselves constantly to feel like we are in the know. For me, I’m learning that saying “Hey, I’m taking some time for myself” is more respectable than “taking on more” when I know I’m not going to produce quality if I am not fully present or invested.
There is a lot of pressure sometimes to always be on the go, meeting expectations, and having it all together. What I am learning day-by-day is it’s those moments when things are tough, those moments when you can be vulnerable and relatable, that you learn the most.
Be patient. Be recharged. Have a sense of ownership. And love what you do.